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Crave Vesper 2 Review: A Discreet Vibrator
You may want to do some research to pick a vibrator that will satisfy your needs, although many vibrators have a variety of possible uses and vibration strength settings. The Ruby Glow Massager contours to your body—one side has raised ridges that you can grind your vulva against, while the other features a smooth nub that targets your perineum. Each side has its own motor, so “you can either rock back and forth along the toy, or simply sit down on it and let the vibrations do all the leg work,” Finn tells SELF. The Ballerina stays easy to maneuver in any position and can even rest between two bodies without you holding it there. It has 12 different settings, two simple buttons, and is quiet (even at its strongest). I try to keep things simple and stick with vibrators that are USB rechargeable either with USB-A or USB-C.
Whether you prefer a gentle hum or a more intense pulsation , you can tailor the experience to your liking. Control the speed and strength of the vibrations to find the perfect level of intensity for your needs. Richards recommends this classic toy, which he considers “the gold standard of vibrators,” for anyone who wants to introduce strong sensations into their sex life, regardless of their gender or anatomy. “If you find [it] a bit intense, using it over underwear is a way to enjoy the buzzing sensation on clits and cocks without excessive direct stimulation,” he suggests.
This makes it a bit harder to clean, as you cannot submerge it, but you can easily wash the silicone cap. Autistic activist Ruby Stone emphasized in our interview that sensory-processing issues can cause certain sounds, textures, or other stimuli to feel extremely unpleasant. It may be preferable to handle the options in person, if possible, before selecting a toy to purchase. This suction vibrator provides diffuse, customizable sensations in a small, convenient size.
The Dot features a tapered tip (measuring an eighth of an inch at its narrowest point) that offers pinpointed, rather than broad vibrator, clitoral stimulation. Made from soft, flexible matte silicone, the Dot delivers vibrations that are intensely concentrated at the pointed tip of the toy, with relatively little vibration resonating into the hard-plastic loop-shaped handle. As a result, it’s easy to apply a lot of intense stimulation precisely where you want. This matte coating has a soft, suede-like texture that feels pleasant against the skin, though we recommend using it with plenty of water-based lube to reduce friction.
Jess also hosts CityTV’s Intimately You, PlayboyTV’s hit reality series Swing, and her weekly @SexWithDrJess podcast alongside her husband, Brandon. If you struggle to achieve an orgasm and can’t pinpoint why, the Lioness Vibrator 2.0 was designed for you. If you’d prefer a more compact wand, or one that’s battery operated, try the Vibratex Mystic Wand Vibrator ($80). It’s made by the same company as the Magic Wand, but is much smaller and easier to travel with. You can’t talk about the best vibrator without talking about the Magic Wand. This classic vibrator has been around for decades and is still one of the best selling toys on the market.
And the fun doesn’t have to stop in the shower or bathtub because the Little Secret has a waterproof (IPX7) finish. The premium silicone design, waterproof functionality, USB rechargeability, and 5-year warranty make it a more justifiable investment for those seeking the best in clitoral stimulation. As its name suggests, bullet vibrators are handheld vibrators typically shaped like bullets (and often roughly the same size). Similar to the egg vibrator, bullet vibrators offer pinpointed external stimulation to your erogenous zones, and some models are designed to stimulate the G-spot as well. That’s why we scoured online reviews, consulted with sex therapists and talked to real couples to figure out the best sex toys for long-distance relationships.
The vibrator comes in its own storage case, which is a huge plus considering its size (you can’t just stuff it in your drawer…well, you could, but it’d be cumbersome). While only available in purple on Lovers, SnailVibe comes in both pink and purple from its direct site. The Cherry Emojibator is super versatile in that it has a simple USB type A charger, but actually finding the entry port for the charger is a little difficult.
It’s almost enough to make you think that older people have lost their interest in sex, which is a generalization that’s simply not true. Regardless of my experience, I applaud SnailVibe for creating an innovative toy with the trimmings — like multiple motors and the case. The vibrator is 9.4 inches long in total (a bit shorter than an average forearm), and has an insertable length of 1.4 to 5.5 inches, the latter of which is about the average penis size. Increase the intensity by pressing the + button, and switch up the kind of vibration by pressing the S button.
That can feel great—but some people prefer more targeted stimulation, which is where other smaller massagers come into play, Dr. Litner says. Compact toys can also be easier to hold and control (although using a toy mount or sex pillow can help), may be better for some positions with a partner, and are a great choice for travel too. Although it’s called a cock ring, this sleek little product is a couples’ favorite because it does double-duty as a vibrator and can also stimulate the perineum, making it ideal for a twosome. “The constricted blood flow to the penis and the simultaneous clitoral stimulation during penetration can help both partners reach a prolonged and super intense orgasm,” Starkman says.